What About Bikinis?

Most women have no idea – I want to include the innocent middle woman here – and would probably like to know this information since it really has a huge impact on how they are viewed, and treated. It involves them very deeply, and they have a right to know all the information. You can only make a truly informed decision if you have all the facts laid out in front of you. 

So, here I am, wishing you every possible happiness, and hoping you don’t hate me for telling you these things. (Maybe you won’t, after all… I would personally want to know this… ) And if you do hate me well, I’ll still pray for you.

Lets begin with the secular medias find, since they are pretty adamant about women being able to wear whatever they want, no matter if there are consequences. I think this way the information will be a bit less biased and more informative.


Bikinis Make Men See Women as Objects, Scans Confirm


A new study presented at the recent American Association for the Advancement of Science meeting in Chicago shows that when men see photos of scantily clad women their brain registers the women as objects to be acted on. Christie Nicholson reports


Men see bikini-clad women as objects, psychologists say


Sex objects: Pictures shift men’s view of women


Men view half-naked women as objects, study finds

That’s pretty wierd right? Here’s another article that is based on the same information, I’ll paste the entire thing so you can read it here:

The Science of Bikinis


It’s summertime, and the livin’ is supposed to be easy. I hope you’ve made time for some summer fun in the next few weeks, but one thing that can really pull the brakes on a carefree summer is swimsuit shopping.

Yes, I’ve been to the stores this season and I do know that finding a suit that is body flattering and affordable is really tough. Add to that God’s desire for us to dress modestly, and the waters of swimwear fashion can get muddy in a hurry.

We are going to hover on the subject of swimwear for the next several days because I know it is a hot topic (pun intended!) and one that requires us to revisit God’s Word often. Tomorrow I will appeal to the heart of the matter, but today I am interested in waking up your brains!

Some fascinating new research helps us answer the age-old question on whether Christians should wear bikinis. A recent Princeton University study researched the reaction of a group of men to images of people in various states of dress. They were shown images of modestly dressed men and women and images of sexualized, scantily clad women (i.e. women in bikinis). The heads of the people in the photographs were cropped off so the test subjects could not focus on faces, hair, expressions, etc., only on the subjects’ bodies and clothing.

Here’s what researchers found:

Finding #1: Bikinis = Object Mentality

Brain scans revealed that when men are shown pictures of scantily clad women, the region of the brain associated with tools (such as screwdrivers, hammers, etc.) lit up. When reporting this specific result, analysts at National Geographic concluded that bikinis really do inspire men to see women as objects, as something to be used rather than someone to connect with. A good question to consider as you think about this finding is when it comes to your relationships with boys, do you want to be used or do you want to be known? Of course you picked option B … so you’d better keep reading.

Finding #2: Bikini ≠ Empathy

Some of the men showed zero brain activity in the medial prefrontal cortex, which is that part of the brain that lights up when a person ponders another person’s thoughts, intentions, and feelings. Researchers called this particular finding “shocking” because they almost never see this specific section of the brain shut down in this way.

This means that these men see women “as sexually inviting, but they are not thinking about their minds,” said Susan Fiske a psychologist at Princeton University. “The lack of activation in this social cognition area is really odd, because it hardly ever happens.”

In other words, seeing a woman dressed immodestly creates a very rare reaction in the male brain by actually shutting a part of it down. But it is the part of the brain that we want to see functioning—that part that allows the men around us to think about our thoughts and feelings. It’s the exact part of the brain that makes a guy want to know us!

Finding #3: A Bikini Changes Who’s In Control

In a separate Princeton study, when men viewed images of women in bikinis they often associated with first person action verbs including “I push, I grab.” But when they saw images of women dressed modestly, they associated them with third-person action verbs such as “she pushes, she grabs.”

In other words, for the women in bikinis the men desired control. When the women were modestly dressed, the men associated the woman with being in control.

Finding #4: Bikinis Are Memorable

Of all the images that were shown, the women in bikinis were most memorable to the test subjects. Most of the men in the study remembered the photographs of women in bikinis most clearly even if they had only seen the image for two-tenths of a second (that is less time than it took you to read between these parentheses).

That may feel like a crash course in brain research, but there are some significant applications to be made toward the way that we dress, especially as the mercury rises.

There is much more to unpack here, and we will tackle it together over the next several days. But before you start to comment, let me head a few thoughts off at the pass.

If this research makes men sound like cavemen, I assure you that is not the essence of the findings. No one is asserting that bikinis cause a biological instinct to act out toward women and ignore their feelings, but there is hard data here about the way our clothes affect the male brain.The knowledge that you have the kind of allure that can make you memorable is powerful indeed. But just because you know you’ve got it doesn’t mean you should flaunt it. We will talk about why in tomorrow’s post.”

Also see our video on this topic:

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8 Smart Tools To Avoid Immorality on the Media!

As Catholics we have “The moral responsibility of not exposing oneself unnecessarily to occasions of sin.” (Catholic Dictionary, Term; AVOIDING SIN)

 “Three principles are standard in Catholic moral teaching: 1. no one is obliged to avoid the remote occasions of sin. This is true because the danger of sin is slight and otherwise it would be impossible to live in the world; 2. everyone is obliged to avoid voluntary proximate occasions of sin, where “voluntary” means that it can easily be removed or avoided; 3. anyone in a necessary proximate occasion of sin is obliged to make the occasion remote. An occasion is necessary when the person’s state of life or profession or circumstances make it morally impossible to avoid exposure to certain enticements. What is a proximate danger to sinning can be rendered remote by such means as prayer, the sacraments, and custody of the senses, especially of the eyes.”

Today the horror of sin and the dangers of exposing ourselves to it and the near occasions of it are so watered down that it’s pathetic. Catholic’s seem to be left on their own for moral guides on which to perceive whether something is “clean” or not. The fact that the National Catholic Registers came out with a list titled, “Top 100 Pro-Catholic Movies” that encourages Catholics to view movies with sexual content in them says a lot.

Thankfully, we are not left to our own devices, even if it looks like it. The Church clearly teaches us about what is sinful and what isn’t, and our duties concerning it.

 The Baltimore Catechism explains this in simple terms:

Q. 770. What do you mean by a firm purpose of sinning no more?

A. By a firm purpose of sinning no more I mean a fixed resolve not only to avoid all mortal sin, but also its near occasions.

Q. 771. What do you mean by the near occasions of sin?

A. By the near occasions of sin I mean all the persons, places and things that may easily lead us into sin.

Q. 772. Why are we bound to avoid occasions of sin?

A. We are bound to avoid occasions of sin because Our Lord has said: “He who loves the danger will perish in it”; and as we are bound to avoid the loss of our souls, so we are bound to avoid the danger of their loss. The occasion is the cause of sin, and you cannot take away the evil without removing its cause.

Q. 773. Is a person who is determined to avoid the sin, but who is unwilling to give up its near occasion when it is possible to do so, rightly disposed for confession?

A. A person who is determined to avoid the sin, but who is unwilling to give up its near occasion when it is possible to do so, is not rightly disposed for confession, and he will not be absolved if he makes known to the priest the true state of his conscience.

Q. 774. How many kinds of occasions of sin are there?

A. There are four kinds of occasions of sin:
1. Near occasions, through which we always fall;
2. Remote occasions, through which we sometimes fall;
3. Voluntary occasions or those we can avoid; and
4. Involuntary occasions or those we cannot avoid. A person who lives in a near and voluntary occasion of sin need not expect forgiveness while he continues in that state.

Q. 775. What persons, places and things are usually occasions of sin?

1. The persons who are occasions of sin are all those in whose company we sin, whether they be bad of themselves or bad only while in our company, in which case we also become occasions of sin for them;
2. The places are usually liquor saloons, low theaters, indecent dances, entertainments, amusements, exhibitions, and all immoral resorts of any kind, whether we sin in them or not;
3. The things are all bad books, indecent pictures, songs, jokes and the like, even when they are tolerated by public opinion and found in public places.

 Pope Pius XI said this in his encyclical, “Vigilanti Cura” , which spoke on the LEgion of Decency, “It is unfortunate that, in the present state of affairs, this influence is frequently exerted for evil. So much so that when one thinks of the havoc wrought in the souls of youth and of childhood, of the loss of innocence so often suffered in the motion picture theatres, there comes to mind the terrible condemnation pronounced by Our Lord upon the corrupters of little ones: “whosoever shall scandalize one of these little ones who believe in Me, it were better for him that a millstone be hanged about his neck and that he be drowned in the depths of the sea”.
THIS WAS IN 1936!!!

Please take such matters seriously.

Below we have 8 tools that are very helpful in this area – if you decide to watch secular movies and so on, it greatly aids in keeping you purer.



Being an avid music junkie in my early teens, I know how difficult it is to find wholesome music. Try finding a popular song that doesn’t reference sex, or blaspheme, or promote nasty lifestyle choices that go against the Catholic Faith and you’ll see what I mean.

Fortunately there are a few tricks to keep our heads above the water when it comes to enjoying good music.

There is a website that scans the lyrics to (almost) any song that you type in, and it give you the ratings based on the lyrics. Though not perfect, it is still a good way to sift through the garbage. It also sends you to the lyrics themselves so you can read them over and see for yourself if it is worth the listen. Unfortunately, the site is down due to construction.

  • Another way to check the song content is to Google the lyrics yourself and read over them quickly. Websites like A-Z lyrics are helpful with that as well.
  •  Common Sense Media does not have the best guidelines when it comes to movies/books/music, but they still write down almost every warning when it comes to concerns for sexual things and so on. So this is also a great way to see what is in the Music Album/Book/Movie and, based on your Catholic Moral Standards, decide whether or not the media in question is a danger to your soul.
  • Another way to enjoy your music without worrying about your soul being in danger is; if the song is clean but you do not want to watch the music video (as usually music videos are dirty), go on Youtube and look up the song in question but write lyrics after it. For example: “Coldplay Paradise lyrics“. You will find videos that just have the lyrics and not the music video.

 Finding Christian or Catholic Artists

If you’d like to just stay away from all non-Christian artists and music that’s also a good way to keep pure. You can search for the artist in question and see if they are Christian or Catholic, which usually means their content won’t be such a concern.. note that I wrote “usually” not “positively”.

Searching for Catholic and Christian artists is pretty easy, as nowadays they range in all sorts of genres.

Lifeway.com has a good list of Christian artists (mostly non-Catholic), whose genre’s are pretty widespread.

Godtube is another directory for Christian artists, as well as CBN.

Tooth and Nail records is a Christian Alternative (hard rock) record company. The music ranges from metal to light rock, and they are not perfect of course, but they are a way better alternative to Secular Metal and Rock bands. Bands such as Anberlin, Family Force 5, Nine Lashes and so on are just a few examples of the wide variety of Christian musicians.

 Rockforlife has a list of openly pro-life musicians, along with the openly Pro-Choice list.

Catholic artists are also available, though not as popular as Christian / secular artists.

Aleteia has a list here. Catholic Playlist Radio is helpful. As well as Catholic-Link’s “19 Catholic Artists That Will Rock Your Playlist”

And if you are interested in Sacred Music, Wiki has a long list of Catholic Music.

CCWatershed has tons of information regarding Sacred Music (also on why it is the only music that is supposed to be played during the Holy Mass!).

 NOTE: Secular music (Protestant music and so on included) are fine to listen to if it is clean, but Sacred music is the only preferred music for playing during Mass. Though this does not mean that WE are supposed to just listen to Gregorian chant ONLY when we are outside of Mass! This only concerns the Holy Mass, not our personal daily life. See more information on this here.



VidAngel provides a way to skip or mute things you don’t want to see or hear in movies and TV shows!


Parent’s Guides

Concerning the Catholic Church and films, you can first read about the Legion of Decency in this article here. It is praised by Pope Pius XI in his Encyclical “Vigilanti Cura”, where he says, (among other things)

“it has been highly pleasing to Us to learn of the fruits already gathered and of the progress which continues to be made by that prudent initiative launched more than two years ago as a holy crusade against the abuses of the motion pictures and entrusted in a special manner to the “Legion of Decency“.”

“An unceasing and universal vigilance must, on the contrary, convince the producers that the ‘Legion of Decency‘ has not been started as a crusade of short duration, soon to be neglected and forgotten, but that the Bishops of the United States are determined, at all times and at all costs, to safeguard the recreation of the people whatever form that recreation may take.” 

Parent’s Guides are very helpful as they write out things that parents be offended by or not want their Children to watch. Even though they should not be used as a foundation for our Moral Standards, they are very helpful in our discerning of whether or not the video we want to watch may or may not be a danger to our soul.

A few parents guides websites:



parentsguides on IMBD – just google the name of the movie with “parents guide” afterwards.


ClearPlay Dvd Player


What is filtering?
In the past, parental controls would prevent viewing of an entire movie.  Filtering is different. With filtering you can watch a movie and automatically skip over and mute just the scenes and language you don’t want in front of your family audience.

What is the Family Movie Act?
ClearPlay championed the Family Movie Act, which was passed by Congress in 2005. The Act received universal support as a way to uphold both the rights of families and the rights of copyright holders.

How does ClearPlay work with streaming movies?
ClearPlay has an app that works with streaming movies rented or purchased through online streaming services. This app is installed to work with the Chrome browser on your computer. The ClearPlay app can be installed 

Is ClearPlay being sued by copyright holders?
No.  ClearPlay only releases filtering products that are compliant with copyright law. Keeping our products legal is one of the reasons we have stayed in business for over 17 years.

Who are the “ClearPlay Families?”
ClearPlay was started by a handful of families who wanted more entertainment options for their kids. We have been joined by other families across the country with a similar vision. We are so grateful for your support!

1. We believe that families can enjoy the show together.

2. We provide movie filtering that is innovative and legal.

3. We make this experience available on popular entertainment platforms.

“ClearPlay is the safest way to enjoy movies with your family.

Whether it’s movie night with the kids or date night with you and your spouse, ClearPlay has you covered.

Entertainment choices for the whole family
You set content preferences based on your family values. ClearPlay Smart Parental Controls then filter out the images and dialogue you don’t want in the movies and TV shows you own or rent.

You control what your family does – and doesn’t – see so everyone can enjoy worry-free family time.”



 List of Condemned films by the USCCB.

“A comprehensive, alphabetical list of films released in the United States that have been condemned by the Catholic Church since November 1, 2003, when the current system of ratings was established. The ratings are based upon reviews by the Catholic News Service and the former Office for Film and Broadcasting of the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops.

The accompanying NOTES explain why each film has been rated “O” — morally offensive — which combines the previous two ratings: B, which stood for “morally objectionable in part for all,” and C, “condemned.”  ”

(This material may not be published, broadcast, rewritten or otherwise distributed, except by linking to a page on Catholic News Service.)

List of films condemned by the Legion of Decency:

“This is a list of films condemned by the National Legion of Decency, a United States Catholic organization. The National Legion of Decency was established in 1933 and reorganized in 1965 as the National Catholic Office for Motion Pictures (NCOMP). Under each of these names, it rated films according to their suitability for viewing, assigning a code of A, B, or C, with that of C identified as “Condemned” for viewing by Catholics. The C rating was issued from 1933 until 1978. The Legion’s ratings were applied to movies made in the United States as well as those imported from other countries. Since it reviewed films when released for distribution, the Legion usually rated non-U.S. films a few years after their first release in their country of origin, occasionally years after. For example, it rated Marcel Pagnol‘s 1936 César in 1948 and Marlene Dietrich‘s 1930 The Blue Angel in 1950.”


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F.B. Purity – Clean Up and Customize Facebook

 Before I got rid of my Facebook I always found it annoying to see ads of (usually immodest women) on the sidebars of my Facebook. (THESE ADS ARE EVERYWHERE GRR!) But F.B. Purity literally gets rid of all of it; it’s great. I highly recommend it for anyone who uses Facebook.

“F.B. (Fluff Busting) Purity is a Facebook customizing browser extension. It alters your view of Facebook to show only relevant information to you. It lets you remove the annoying and irrelevant stories from your newsfeed such as game and application spam, ads and sponsored stories. It can also hide the boxes you don’t want to see on each side of the newsfeed.”


Compass Book Ratings

Compass Book Ratings provides a standardized rating system so everyone can more easily evaluate their reading options. These book reviews are for parents, teachers, librarians, readers, and anyone looking for a book that best fits their preferences for story and content.”

 Commonsensemedia.org also has a section that has a parents guide for books that is VERY helpful when discerning whether or not a book is worth the read.

 Above all, knowing and practicing your Catholic faith is the most important. If you go to mass regularly, say the Daily Rosary, and so on, I can tell you from personal experience that this aids GREATLY in the battle against corrupting your soul when faced with dealing with the media.

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Where To Find Cheap Swimsuits!?

St. Joseph

So, St. Joseph and my guardian angel are my #1 shopping companions. If, after asking them for help and literally searching for hours and hours and coming up with nothing, its probably for the best. But with that said, God knows our needs and asking your patron Saint and your Guardian angel before putting together a swimsuit or searching for the correct piece at a thrift store, can really help.

Putting everything in God’s hands (after all, this is for His glory is it not?) is my number one tip.

Sew Your Own!

If you are into sewing, (or even if you’re not!) you can try sewing your own bathing suit. There are many patterns for the simple, modest bathing suit. And if you aren’t ready for that yet, you can at least learn to sew modesty panels and/or lengthen board shorts and so on. Sewing is very helpful in the modesty depo if you are interested. 🙂

Look for Polyester/good swimwear fabric on clearance, and also at $1.99 stores near you 🙂


Piece by Piece

Piecing a swimsuit together isn’t as disastrous or frustrating as they make it sound. You just need to agree on exactly what you want to do and work on that. Here are a few of my ideas to help you:

You can find these on Amazon or for brand new at Thrift Stores, or even at stores like Old Navy for great prices:

(NOTE bold words are links!)

Swimdress with leggings and half tee

Swim dress with sheer/ish t-shirt over, and leggings.

One piece with sheer/ish t-shirt over and board shorts.

One piece and rash guard & board shorts

Two-piece, board shorts and rash guard

skirted one piece with half tee and leggings

one piece with half tee and board shorts.

one piece with half tee and leggings

High neck skirted swim dress, (sew panel) leggings.

Zippered one piece and board shorts

this tunic with leggings or swim shorts.

this kind of swim dress with leggings and half-tee.

Swim skirt and leggings which you can pair with a bikini top (for support) and rash guard.

another swim skirt with leggings 

Cheapest Buys

It rare, but sometimes you can find an actual full modest bathing suit for a cheap price; the only downside is that some of them are Muslim.

Extra Tips

Wearing coverups (when you’re not swimming in the pool and such) over your swimsuit, if you are just dipping in the water for a bit or hanging out at the beach is helpful. Here are a few ideas:

See also our Pinterest board with EVEN MORE modest swimsuit ideas!