So, its been a hot minute!
I’ve finished writing the book on Catholic Modesty a few months ago (YAY!). I have since sent it to two Catholic publishers, both were very polite but both declined. One said they don’t work with people they’ve never worked with before and the other said, while its well written, its just not a good fit for them. I really appreciate your prayers and patience in this endeavor! Although I am still looking for more publishers, my last resort will be to self publish. However, its not my favorite option. I was really hoping to have this book professionally polished and edited for you guys. I am doing all this right now, and let me tell you, I’m not a pro!
Right now I am double checking all my footnotes, (THERE ARE 462 SO FAR!), and editing what I can, but its a daunting task. I am also looking to send the manuscript to a faithful Catholic priest I know to check the theology in the book.
My questions for you, my dear patient and amazing friends, are:
- Should I bite the bullet and self publish? It may not get as far and widespread then if I found a Catholic publisher, and I will need to edit, format and design the book myself. It will not be at its best.
- Should I use my real name on the book? I don’t really want to. My reasoning is that the book will be judged by who the author is, instead of the content, which is what I really don’t want. But who knows?
- Are you guys still interested in this book!? I honestly can’t wait to get it out there to you!
This book has 241 pages so far, packed full of information on Catholic Modesty and all it entails. My goal is to answer the questions that I myself had been searching for and couldn’t find anywhere, with charity and clarity. The title, though liable to change is, “Catholic Modesty: What It Is, What It Isn’t, And Why It’s Still Important”.
While I am so hopping excited for you all to read it, I still have a 2/3 of the book to run over, quickly edit, and polish. So PLEASE pray for me! Pray for this endeavor! I am hoping to have it available for you all soon – if I end up self publishing, you will be able to download the book for FREE, and pay only for paperback copies. I want this information to be available for everyone.
Here is the PREFACE of the book and the TABLE OF CONTENTS as it is right now!!!
It must first be noted that I am not a professional writer; I have no college degree, this is my first real book, and I cannot promise to have perfect Grammar. What I can promise you, dear reader, is a dedication to absolute Truth, a great love for souls, and a penchant for clear answers. But this book isn’t about me, it’s about answers, it’s about clarity, it’s about countless women (and men!) who just want to know what Modesty really means. It’s about the woman who is ostracized for wearing immodest clothing unknowingly, the Father who is criticized for raising his children to wear modest clothes, the Parish Priest who is persecuted because he dares to speak about dressing properly for Mass, the girl feeling left out because she only wears skirts. It is for people of goodwill who are searching, who want to do the right thing, who may have gone about things the wrong way before.
The virtue of Modesty is only one part of the beautiful web of Catholicism, it is not the “be all end all”. Though the enormity of confusion among Catholics concerning this subject is grounds enough to write about it in depth. “Catholic Modesty” is a touchy and oftentimes avoided topic, because of well-meaning, but overzealous and uncharitable remarks made by many Catholics, and their puritanical views on the matter. We are called to strive for holiness in all things, including modesty, so it is almost ironic that the virtue, which is also called “temperance”, is sometimes implemented in the most imprudent and intemperate way by those meaning to spread its use. Squabbles over dress codes, standards, scruples, strap width, shoulders, and “tone” have risen to such a state that some feel it best to just call off the whole thing and encourage the idea of “just, don’t be naked in public and love Jesus” kind of attitude, or the Protestanized, relativistic “You have your belief of what modesty means to you, and I have mine; there is no one right answer.” Truth has been twisted, new ideas and theologies have arisen, and one can say that we have become very divided with no end in sight. Catholics may all agree that modesty is important, but to progress further than this, no one can seem to agree on what constitutes a modest outfit and what doesn’t.
As a concerned Catholic woman, searching for answers on the topic of modest dress was not easy; finding exact standards for Mass was shady, and many good, prominent Catholics contradict each other in word and deed. One finds themselves asking many questions that seem to go unanswered.
Is it “two inches above the knee” or “ankles always covered”? Or does it even matter? If one man thinks mini skirts are immodest and one doesn’t, does that mean women can wear mini skirts or is it simply not about men at all? If only Men are visual then why am I visual as well? Is there something wrong with me because of that? If this woman promoting modesty gets so upset about women wearing low-cut shirts, then why isn’t she following her own rules for low-cut shirts? And perhaps the biggest question of them all, “does it even matter in the end?”
In the spirit of brotherly love and hope for unification and a proper understanding of the entirety of the subject of Catholic Modesty, this book was written. As a few other books concerning this same subject were also written prior, the focus will also be on specific answers to questions I had that I previously could not find anywhere else. It is also the hope that this book does not hold itself upright as the “be all end all”, but more so as a sort of primer to answer many questions that I had, and that I noticed so many other Catholics also have concerning this virtue of modesty. This book was not written to somehow show that, “Hey! I have all the answers!” because I do not. If one were to follow me around, one would certainly note many areas of modesty that I continue to fail in, and that’s normal! We are all striving for holiness, and will never be completely perfect in this life.
Now, to be clear, this book was not written to condemn, but to encourage, to enliven, and to educate. What the reader does after reading this book is entirely between them and God. May God be glorified by this unprofessional piece of work, and may this bring you closer to Christ through Mary.
The author of this book fully accepts the entire Magisterium of the Catholic Church and is obedient to the Chair of Peter in Rome.
“(I)t will be the fault of ignorance, not malice, if I say anything contrary to the doctrine of the Holy Roman Catholic Church, may be held as certain. By God’s goodness I am, and always shall be, faithful to the Church, as I have been in the past. May He be for ever blessed and glorified. Amen.” St. Teresa of Avila (1)
(1) Interior Castle, page 15 Publisher: Grand Rapids, MI: Christian Classics Ethereal Library Print Basis: London: Thomas Baker, 1921. 3rd ed
TABLE OF CONTENTS:
Modesty: What is it?
What has the Church always taught about Modesty? And has it changed?
The Decline of Morals: Feminism, Freemasonry and The Persistence of the Church Part I
The Decline of Morals: Feminism, Freemasonry and The Persistence of the Church Part II
Conclusion: Modesty, Merit, and Our Lady
Frequently Asked Questions
BONUS / APPENDIX:
The Catholic Church on Dressing for Mass: A Timeline
So that’s that for now. Again, I really appreciate your patience and prayers. I will keep y’all updated as this continues.